What Is a Sensual Massage?

A sensual massage may be performed at a spa.
Some couples may enjoy a sensual neck massage.
A sensual massage can sometimes be a code word for sexual behavior, although the two don't have to be connected.
A sensual massage may help increase intimacy in a relationship.
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  • Last Modified Date: 24 August 2014
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Sensual massage is a form of massage which is designed to increase intimacy between people in a relationship. This intimate massage is usually performed in the environment of the home by people who are in a relationship with each other. Unfortunately, “sensual massage” is sometimes used as a code word for sexual services and this concept is sometimes misinterpreted as a result; in point of fact, whether performed at home or in a spa, massage is not intended to be sexual in nature.

In a sensual massage, the goal is to developer deeper emotional connections with a partner. After the massage, both partners should feel closer and more comfortable with each other. The massage techniques used can vary; partners can develop their own massage moves, integrate techniques from various massage traditions, and even take couples massage classes which are taught by professional massage therapists who provide people with tools which can be used in sensual massage.

This type of massage is designed to be relaxing. At the end of the massage, both partners should feel calmer and more at ease. While the partners may trade massages with each other, the massages are usually performed at different times so that someone who has just received a massage does not have to emerge from a highly relaxed state into the more focused state of massage giver.

Touch in general tends to encourage deeper emotional connections as well as making people feel more relaxed. In sensual massage, there is a focus on maintaining constant physical contact throughout the massage and on massaging the whole body. People can use aids such as massage oil or cream, although these are not necessarily required, and the massage can also be performed fully clothed if partners feel more comfortable that way. Massage tools such as exfoliating gloves or aids to assist with deeper massage work can also be incorporated into a sensual massage.

People can also focus on specific areas of the body with massage. For example, some couples may enjoy giving foot massages at the end of the day to relieve stress. Likewise, partners may massage each other's necks or backs to address tension, reserving full body massage for special occasions.

Every couple may have its own approach to massage. There are not any methods which are necessarily wrong or right or any prescribed length for a sensual massage. However, people should be careful to avoid injuring each other. If a massage is painful, the pressure should be reduced, and people who have not had formal training should avoid deep muscle work because they can inadvertently cause injury.

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anon213398
Post 4

"People can use aids such as massage oil or cream, although these are not necessarily required, and sensual massage can also be performed fully clothed if partners feel more comfortable that way..."

Seriously? What fun is that? I guess to each his own. But that does not sound fun to me.

googlefanz
Post 3

I've only ever had a sports massage -- but this sounds really nice. Besides the fact that both parties get to enjoy a nice massage, I can really see how having that kind of intimate yet non-sexual touch can be very relaxing. I think too often, especially in Western society, we don't touch each other enough, and the only times we do touch are in sexual situations.

The human body is designed to be touched, and we do so much better psychologically with appropriate, non-sexual touch -- just look at how much better babies do when their parents cuddle them.

I think that every couple should know how to do a sensual massage -- I would think that learning how to appreciate your partner's body in a non-sexual context would really bring a new level to the relationship.

StreamFinder
Post 2

What would be some good tips for people who want to do a sensual and relaxing pre natal massage?

In such a new time in our life, my husband and I want to reconnect physically before I turn into a hormone monster :). But seriously, what kind of massage equipment do you need to do a good pre natal sensual massage? And what are some good tips for taking care of the mother's health while doing this?

I mean, obviously you're not going to do a deep tissue massage, but are there any good methods from Swedish massage that would be appropriate for this?

zenmaster
Post 1

I'm really glad that you made a point of talking about how a sensual massage is not about sex.

Unfortunately, way too often people expect a masseur to provide services that are way outside of their job description, especially if the massage therapist advertises as offering relaxation massages. This is not only offensive to massage therapists; it makes light of the training they go through and it sort of taints the whole idea of therapeutic massage for everybody else.

Good for you for mentioning this important aspect of massage.

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