I didn't realize I was living with suppressed anger towards my ex-wife for years. I just thought I was handling things like any other person who had to get divorced. It turned out that other people around me noticed how quickly I'd get agitated over a minor issue at work. Whenever I talked with my friends on the phone, I always managed to work her name into the conversation, then slip in a veiled insult or two. I had several unsuccessful relationships with women because they did something that reminded me of her.
I decided to get some counseling from my pastor, who had performed our wedding ceremony, and I asked him why a lot of people avoided talking to me or seemed nervous around me. He said it was obvious I was holding in a lot of anger towards my ex-wife, and other people picked up on that hostility. I needed to work on letting go of the anger and emotional pain and rediscover the happy and healthy guy I used to be before my marriage turned sour.